Salam and hi everyone,

Hows your day so far? Mine just same as per usual. I was thinking on what to write and come across this thoughts. How to be single and not miserable. My friends used to said this when they are single (now most of them already married haha). So, now when people talk about being single (me included) its also means miserable. We had saying, 'Makan tak kenyang, mandi tak basah, tidur tak lena'. Literally translate as you eat and didnt feel full, you shower but its not wet and you sleep but still awake. Basically means whatever you did nothing is right.

But onto todays post, I want to share how to be single but NOT miserable hehe

I've been single for almost 4-5 years. I breakup with my college boyfriend when I was 22, being single for 3 years, break up another relationship after 2 years and here I am today still single haha

So this are my tips on how you can be single and happy.

Love Yourself

This is the most important, simplest yet hardest thing to do. Just because its simple doesnt mean its easy. I didnt realize this myself until recently that I'm actually sabotaging myself and do things that indicate as not loving myself. I struggle with this as well but here are some of the things that I did to love myself more each day;
- Always have positive thoughts even you are mad and upset
- Be mind of the present rather than always worried about the future
- Do things that I enjoy doing more often
- Be thankful on small things in regards of big things
- Smile even when things gets hard
- Feel the feeling. Never compressed it, always blew after all

Weekend with Friends and Family

Growing up I havent had much close people in my life. And even today, very few have make it to the list. But whatever it is I manage to have them at least a day for every weekend. My friends and I love to go for movie, food hunting, chatting and hiking. Because I know I have few friends so I make it to meet 1 person each weekend haha how pathetic. As for my family, I will always visiting them whenever I can and as much possible.

Enjoy Being Your Own Company

Because we are with ourself 24/7, we have to learn to enjoy to be on our own aka alone. I will share more on my future posts activities to do when you are bored. But these are some of the activities that I enjoyed most when I'm alone;
- Watching movies
- Reading books
- Painting
- Listening to music
- Taking pictures





Travel to Places Freelys

This is one thing that I love the most. I have this in mind where I just want to live on my backpack and go to places. I have a bit of money and I will work while I'm in those countries. I used to think that by 28, I am married with steady job and baby #2 on the way. But life and universe have different plan for me so I just going to go and stop waiting till this happen. I will just go and heading forward. So travel is one thing make me at my happiest state. Travel to new places, meet new people and try their food is always a good idea to me. There a lot of youtube videos, books and blogpost about how to travel solo. Yes, its scary. Yes, it will be nice if I travel with friends or my partner but they are not there nor here. They have their own commitment and responsibilities, they dont really care much about you wanting to travel. Yes, I have accepted that and now I'm moving forward. If along the way I met people with similar goals and mindset then its good. If not, I'll keep moving :)

See things from Different Perspective

It might be sad doing things alone but on another notes you will learn more about yourself. What you want to do and what you actually want. Some people found their purpose at age 10 or 20. Which is good for them but there are also people achieve their dreams at age 40 or even 50. You are where you suppose to be. I am where I suppose to be. And, God save you from other issues and possible incidents like divorse or miscarriage or whatever it may be. Just because we didnt see and know doesnt mean its not there. All human have their own problems and their own issues. We just dealing with them differently and at our own way.


So here are the things I suggest you grasp whenever you have the thoughts or assumptions that being single is sucks. 

Have a nice day guys.

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